The Truth about Comfort Feeding or Nursing
Comfort feeding or nursing is letting your child drink your breastmilk even though they don't need to. Sometimes, mothers also comfort feed to make their child sleep and for them to stop fussing over something. We bet that you've probably done this quite a few times. You've also felt probably guilty about it. But here are some truths about comfort feeding.
First of all, you should know that it's not wrong to comfort feed your child. If it works for them and if it alleviates their discomfort, then why would you stop doing it? We understand that you feel bad about it and you could have done something else than to feed him your milk. But stick to the new mantra: if your baby's crying stops, you're probably doing it right. Emphasis on the word probably because, of course, everything in this world needs to be regulated.
Who are we to judge other mothers, may they be nursing moms or not, on how they take care of their child? Every couple has their own set of parenting skills just as much as the mother has her own. If, by any chance, you've been woken at the middle of the night and you're too tired to nurse your child, why will it be bad for you to feed them if it stops their crying? It makes no sense. Other moms might judge you for it, but at the end of the day, you are the only one responsible for your child.
Other moms feel this particular feeling of guilt, too! If there's such thing as smart-shaming, then this instance should be called mom-shaming. It's when someone speaks ill of the capabilities of others even though they're not doing anything wrong. Because of this mom-shaming thing going on, a lot of moms feel bad towards comfort feeding! Don't worry; you're not the only one who thinks this way. Some moms are labeled as a "pacifier" because they get their child to stop crying by breastfeeding them. You are more than just a pacifier; you are the mom of your precious child. And you are doing an absolutely fabulous job at it by choosing to comfort feed him.
Some moms actually shared that comfort feeding their child works way faster than any painkillers. One mom shared that she things finding comfort from other people is a healthy thing. Much, even more, when it's put in the context of a mom and her child. A child who's seeking comfort from his mom is considered normal and healthy. It's not a way of spoiling your child. They are infants! They don't even know what getting spoiled is. It's not like they're asking for something that they don't need. You're actually giving them nourishment through your breastmilk. And it's in where they find comfort the most. Just because you're nursing your child, doesn't fully guarantee that they'd grow up to be dependent on it. Research shows that babies who are nursed grow to be more outgoing and adventurous than those who aren't breastfed.
Lastly, it's important to remember that breastfeeding is a gift. It is a tool in which a mother is supposed to give her child comfort. Naturally, breastfeeding helps a child feel comfortable and could eventually lead him to sleep. Typically speaking, nursing a baby is made to give them peace and comfort. Don't feel guilty about just feeding through your child instead of actually looking for ways to make him feel better. If breastfeeding is the way that he responds positively, then there's nothing wrong with that.
There's one truth about comfort feeding that as mothers, we should put out there. Comfort feeding isn't wrong, and mothers who do this shouldn't feel guilty in doing so! Moms who can give comfort to their children should be proud that they can provide their child peace when they need it.